Final Notes on Happiness

For various reasons—mainly the desire to make the most of my time (which I recently realized is very limited) with the people I love—I’ve decided to declutter my online presence. Part of this decluttering is to stop blogging.

I won’t delete this blog, though, because it is, for me, proof of how much I’ve grown and changed as a person. Even if I’ve decided to stop blogging, I’m still quite proud of this blog.

To end, here are my final notes on happiness, which I’ve written over the last years and which I never got around to publishing sooner. (The first set of notes on happiness that I published are in this post.)

Enjoy, folks! Just choose to be happy!

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#35 Avoid making super-detailed long-term plans. The future, uncontrollable, will surely mess them up. Unnecessary stress!

#36 When you’re busy and exhausted from work, prioritize sleep/rest, not drinking/partying. Common sense dapat ‘to.

#37 RT @roytolentino: “YOLO is a good excuse to do stupid things, but it is also a good reason to do the best things.”

#38 Learn the difference between loneliness and solitude; don’t let the former displace the latter.

#39 The perfect job does not exist. The sooner you accept the design flaws of your job—esp. if it’s a good one—the better.

#40 “Be so good they can’t ignore you.” –Steve Martin,

#41 The first step to being happy is to stop being proud of/dramatic about your unhappiness.

#42 “Have no fear of perfection—you’ll never reach it.” –Salvador Dalí

#43 You are already loved. Otherwise, you wouldn’t be here. Learn to appreciate this, and be grateful. (Huwag maging sawi!)

#44 Finding who you truly are is, ultimately, not about you; it’s about the people who count on you to be who you truly are.

#45 You’re still undone; be patient with yourself.

#46 “Man is the Joy of Yes in the sadness of the finite.” –Paul Ricoeur

#47 RT @roytolentino: “In all things, humility.”

#48 “So the last will be first, and the first will be last.” –Matthew 20:16

#49 When you think everyone is against you, you’re probably being defensive about your unhappiness. Be honest with yourself.

#50 Inspired by my students: The “good life” necessitates loving others—not so much to receive love as to give it.

#51 Who you were is not necessarily who you are, and who you are is not necessarily who you will be. Appreciate this.

#52 Inspired by Ricoeur: Self-constancy, being who you are, is not merely remaining the same; it is also changing for good.

#53 Instead of trying to get recognition/attention for having a lot to do, just do what you have to do.

#54 Resenting other people for their happiness does not decrease their happiness; it only decreases yours.

#55 “The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” –J. P. Morgan

#56 You cannot expect to grow or improve if you are not willing to change.

#57 Resentment, especially towards others for their happiness, is telling. It betrays how preoccupied one is with oneself.

#58 Friends who can celebrate your good news, even if they’re having a bad day, are the best. I-kebs ang mga negatron.

#59 “There’s nothing wrong when a song ends in a minor key.” –Fiona Apple, “Werewolf”

#60 In times of adversity, instead of pinning the blame on others, focus on your responsibilities and do something good.

#61 If you think things will get worse, you’re right; if you think things will get better, you’re right. C’est la vie.

#62 “Nothing is so exhausting as indecision, and nothing is so futile.” –Bertrand Russell

#63 Live, love, and learn. That’s it. That’s all there is.

#64 KEEP CALM, and do not think yourself important enough to want and expect things to always go your way.

#65 “It will always be everything and nothing between us, but space, and silence to begin with.” –Cynthia Alexander

#66 “Even though time be real, to realise the unimportance of time is the gate of wisdom.” –Bertrand Russell

#67 For AdMU Class of 2014: The only way to achieve certainty is by facing uncertainty, not by avoiding it.

#68 Distinguish between what you think is stupid and what is objectively stupid. It will save you from useless irritability.

#69 Quit playing the victim; take responsibility for your life. You can’t learn from your mistakes if you don’t own them.

#70 “The truth is, you can skip the pursuit of happiness altogether and just be happy.” –@JFM

#71 “Happy things need to be a habit. Part of your routine. Part of your schedule.”

#72 Huwag mabuwisit sa mga buwisit kasi—Duh!—hindi sila worth it.

#73 Stop thinking that you deserve things just because you want them; it’ll free you from the anger of unmet expectations.

#74 Worrying never helps, whether things fuck up or work out. Just do your best, carry on, and choose to be happy.

#75 If you need people to be on your side to convince yourself and others that you’re right, then you’re probably wrong.

#76 On Christmas: The joy of giving and sharing should not be confused with the mindless addiction to buying stuff.

#77 “The days are long, but the years are short.” –Gretchen Rubin


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